After I decided to follow Christ at about age 16, I knew I still could not bear to see a pretty girl without lusting after her in my heart. It was an issue I couldn’t openly discuss either. But the Lord taught me some secrets, which I will be sharing here.
Before I go any further, if you have any form of ungodly desire, which is a true nature of lust in your heart; it is the first thing you must admit, even if no one knows, God does, otherwise this article will be useless to you. In fact, if you can’t admit that you have a problem of lust, it will simply mean you are not serious, and any so-called prayer, fasting, counselling or deliverance you do will not work! God loves the humble and hates the proud! (Proverbs 6:16)
In the real sense of the matter, the Devil has no new tricks on his sleeve. All he has and keep on repackaging all the time are three things, these three things make Man fall into sin; it is the same temptation for all – from the great and lowly, rich and poor to the famous and unknown, no one is exempted!
In fact, being a monk located at some 3000 meter cliff in Bhutan or the Popa Taungkalat in Burma does not exclude you from lust. All Satan needs is an object of desire and the stretch of your imagination.
They are lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh and the pride of life. It all started when Eve was taken as a lustful captive of Satan in the Garden of Eden.
Among some questions I have always asked myself on the Eve and Devil event are: at which place did the devil met Eve to tempt her and persuade her to take and eat the forbidden fruit? Was it that Eve was window-shopping repeatedly around the forbidden fruit? Is it not said “out of sight is out of mind”? Was it that the devil persuaded Eve to cleverly avoid Adam to go to where the forbidden fruit to be tempted? Was it a case of curiosity killing the cat?
Why did the devil isolate Eve and tempted her in private? Had he attempted to persuade Adam and failed miserably? Was it the first time he would tempt Eve or was this the hundredth time? Was it that he took Eve on a journey “…. into an high mountain, shewed unto [her] all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time”? (Luke 4:5 emphasis mine).
Why Eve Fell Into Sin
Some have excused Eve of the temptation that it was because she was the “weaker vessel”. Whatever the guile the devil used to succeed in getting Eve to fall as she did; it was practically down to ONE thing. She lusted after the forbidden fruit in her heart.
Why did I come to this conclusion?
“But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions).” (James 1:14 AMP). What are your grave desires? What do you crave?
Eve lusted. The devil only used what Eve craved for. It may have been a gradual dumbing down by the devil, but it eventually worked. It may have been like the way Delilah wore down Samson’s resistance, but as you may know, Delilah succeeded because the lust-full Samson was constantly on her laps!
Eve’s mind was gradually filled, possibly daily, with the lust the devil was presenting her. Perhaps, as this went on, she hid it from her husband, Adam. And he too, being busy with the affairs of this life, not having enough time for his wife, was totally oblivious as to what was going on between his wife and the devil about the forbidden fruit.”
God, would ALWAYS be found, when in fellowship with humanity, telling us to REMEMBER, MEDITATE, and RENEW our minds with His word or instruction. Apparently Eve didn’t and allowed herself to be drawn into an argument with the devil and lost. Yes, she lost the fight and lost her crown!
“Then our evil desires conceive and give birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” (James 1:14 GNB).
“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night.” Psalm 1:1-2 ESV
David said, “I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.” Psalm 119:11. In my case, the Lord showed me, through the daily reading of the scriptures, the exact verse of the Bible that addressed my lustful desires. So, I chalked the verse on the wall directly opposite my bed. It was the first thing I would see when I woke up in the morning and the last thing I read as I close my eyes for the night. It soaked my mind so much that it was like a flaming fire that warded off any form of lustful desire.
Then I prayed against lustful desires as if my life depended on it, and sure it did, and that prayer was granted!
Evidently, Eve had either refused to “store up” God’s Word in her heart or neglected renewing her mind with the Word (instructions) of God (see Romans 12:2).
The truth is that the love of God dropped out of Eve’s heart. That was why she fell into sin, “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” John 14:15. Eve stopped loving God.
He also said, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.” (1 John 2:15-17)
In essence, Eve (and then Adam) chose to FEED their lusts for the THINGS of the world because their love for God diminished. That was why they fell.”
You see, evil thoughts may come in the form of suggestions, just like the devil tempted Eve and later Jesus. The thought in itself is NOT sinful, but when it undergoes the process of conception without termination, it eventually gives birth to sin, even before it becomes visible for all to see. Jesus terminated all evil thoughts but Eve entertained them.
Some people have always said the devil physically slept with Eve, and then Eve slept with Adam, so sex was their offence. Oh no. God had originally blessed them (Adam and Eve) to “be fruitful and multiply”, so Adam and Eve having sex was perfectly normal in the sight of God.
What actually happened was the implantation of evil desire through lusts, leading to the conception of sin. It is like the act of sex that leads to impregnation and then the carrying of the pregnancy. Yes, the child may not be visible for all to see, it will eventually be born for all to see. So, lust is invisible, too. But you will know that you have it in your heart, just like the pregnant lady.
So How Do You Overcome Lust?
Starve it! But you need a power that can help you starve it the right way. You need the power of sonship. “But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:” John 1:12.
When you have this power (or supernatural ability) and you decide to starve the feeding of lust, it will boost your will power and victory will be assured.
This was what I chalked on the wall against my bed:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Matt 5:28
So, I would always judge myself with that word any time the suggestion to lust comes up in my mind. Initially, it looked like a struggle, but after a while, it became part of my character that my thought processes seemed to have been supernaturally re-wired to think differently.
Now, let’s agree that you have decided to starve lust in your life. What next? Here are the key things the Lord taught me:
There will always be a weaning period. This is the period where your flesh will really crave to feed on the lustful desire. It is like the painful withdrawal period experienced by drug users. The consistent application of the seven points above will certainly carry you through.
The one advantage you will have in overcoming the painful withdrawal symptoms is that you have the grace of God that empowers every child of God to overcome temptations. You have to believe that your victory brings utmost joy to God, that your choice for life is greater than desire for sin.
“Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God.” Romans 6:11 – 13
After you notice that you have achieved a few successes, don’t ever relent and think you’re now invincible! That is a big deception. Remember that when the devil failed in his temptations of Christ in the wilderness, the Bible declares. “And when the devil had ended every temptation, he departed from him until an opportune time.” Luke 4:13
In fact, I prefer the Amplified version: “And when the devil had ended every [the complete cycle of] temptation, he [temporarily] left Him [that is, stood off from Him] until another more opportune and favorable time.”
Go And Sin No More!
The devil and his assistants never rest nor give up, the tempter will come back again and again and again. In fact, Jesus puts it this way, “Afterward Jesus found him in the temple and said to him, “See, you are well! Sin no more, that nothing worse may happen to you.” John 5:14.
The defeated devil will get reinforcement and come back stronger. They will try different ways, make lust easier to access, use people you respect, friends and colleagues, anything and everything against you. But you will always have the edge: Greater is He that is n you than he that is in the world (1 John4:4)
Resist, using the above points, and if you still feel overwhelmed, get the support of an assured believer to boost your faith and stance. Besides, God is ever present with you to help you, too.
Most importantly, each victory you score over every temptation will make you stronger and in turn make you a real terror to the kingdom of darkness. Satan will become very afraid of you. You, the hunted, would become the hunter!
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2)
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Dear Friends, I strongly recommend that you read the articles on Advanced Spiritual Warfare, this will greatly help you in your fight against lust.
*Please SHARE and make comments, it helps other people as well, it may be your comment that will help another person get his/her much needed victory!
Adam and Eve were a couple, highlighting that this lust happens to the married as naturally as to the single. Rightly put, one of the important pointers to successfully overcome this lust, is to fill our thoughts with His Word by committing to reading the Word (the Bible) daily – this cannot be over-emphasized!
Thanks Cindy, yes you’re right.
The only thing that can save us is the Word of God, not even our own words, Eve used her own words and still fell, but Jesus used God’s Word and won!
Marriage does not make one overcome lust, only deliverance through the Word of God and prayer can anyone overcome lust.
I’ve been searching for an article like this. I admit, this is what I’m struggling now. I am a Christian, and I used to be a youth coordinator before. I’ve never been into a relationship but there was this man that I’ve been waiting for such a long time. I even prayed for him and ask God that this man would be my first and last. And now he came into my life but not as expected he is sexually active. I love him so much, after three months in our relationship, I gave myself to him. I am afraid to lose him, he never force me ever but I voluntarily gave myself to him. That was really my decision, it happened just once.. just recently.
But now, I am struglling for this desire because I know this is not from God. I don’t know how to overcome it. I want to redirect myself once again towards God and thank you so much for this post. I learned and was enlightened. I really pray for God’s grace that I will overcome this wrong desire… Please pray for me…
I had this same experience and I had to cut off that relationship. Even now I look back at times and I am disappointed in myself because I allowed my feelings to lead me away from my God. It took me a long time to forgive myself and even the guy as it was my own lust that lead me into that relationship. That was a few years ago and recently a similar situation almost reoccurred only I wasnt gonna let myself end up there again but the guy was given into that kinda thinking but God spoke to him and he obeyed by seeing me just as a friend. My problem now is that my feelings for him though I am trying to get rid of them wont go away, so it makes it difficult for me to be that friend to him. And I am now thinking is it that I am lusting at him? I dont think of him sexually but I have those feelings toward him. Brother John or anyone else could help clarify this for me…thanks
Thanks for your sincerity. What you must be aware is that when you have defeated the tempters from Hell once that does not mean it is the end of the battle. They will always try and try again. The kingdom of Hell is full of goats!
Luke 4:13 tells us, “And when the devil had ended all the temptation, he departed from him for a season.”
One of goals of the kingdom of darkness is to make the believer return to Egypt (as you may have read about Israel in the Bible). You will see this in 2 Peter 2:22 But it is happened unto them according to the true proverb, The dog is turned to his own vomit again; and the sow that was washed to her wallowing in the mire.
So, what can you do?
James 4:7 gives a wise counsel, “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
RESIST the Devil (and his kingdom) – this is where your victory lies – submit to God and do EVERYTHING to resist the devil.
@Jinalie Cordovan –
Hi Jinalie, thanks for your honesty and desire. Spiritual desire is a thirst that can never be fully quenched. I would say that you’re on the right path to victory. Recognizing that we are at fault when we sin is a genuine way to repentance and getting victory over that sin and the devil.
I would suggest that you read my other article, where Jesus let us in on a secret to overcoming SIN, SELF and SATAN: Advanced Spiritual Warfare Frustrating the Devil.
This is a very interesting and important topic that i think has been neglected to the point where the church can slip and fall into iniquity ,thank you for the awsome and revealing teaching ,bless you
Wao! The devil no longer has a secret. When u tell somebody about ur secret u break the power of secrecy
I am having trouble with lust for food and some other things; I gave into lust for a certain drink ( Mountain Dew) today that God had asked me a long time ago to let go of, because of the caffeine. But I had it and I’ve been tempted now in another area. Yesterday , I had over 5,000 calories–lusting food and trying to fulfill it. You know, it is never fulfilled. Lust if never fulfilled. I think God only wants me to drink water in between meals, as maybe this will help with my resistance against temptation.
Dear Fran, you need to consider whether you love God more than your cravings. If you love your cravings more, then you have made your cravings (which is controlled by a demon) your god. It means you now worship the Demon of cravings as your God. Jesus says whoever you yield yourself to obey is your Master. So yielding to your cravings means you have instituted a demon to be your Master.
So you need to ask yourself, this demon wants its desires to be satisfied and keep putting you in bondage, is this what you want? Or take that craving and your body to Christ’s altar of sacrifice and sacrifice it to God. If you will sacrifice it to God on the altar of LOVE FOR GOD, He will reward you with a greater blessing that is unfathomable, you would be amazed at your transformation, too.
Lastly, remember: “Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.” [1 Corinthian 6:13]
This is a hard battle to fight on your own; surely there should be a Christian website for daily accountability in this area.
Dear Fran, thanks for your reply. It is a battle we must all fight and overcome. The flesh has to die, but we are the ones who must submit it upon the altar of sacrifice. I will suggest that you follow this article with Frustrating the Devil (https://brotherjohn.org/advanced-spiritual-warfare-frustrating-the-devil/)
Thanks for great article. I am married and have a kid. Marriage does not make one overcome lust. My heart still window shopping girls at Mall at workplace, look lustfully at woman. I can not entertain the thoughts, and let it give birth to Sin.
Amen Wilson, Amen!
The truth of the matter is that what is making you (us) wander or consider things or people lustfully is the weapon of death, sin – “… the sting of death is sin….”. What is happening is that death is trying to take advantage of you through the flesh. Flesh – carnality of the soul – is the door of sin, if the flesh is rid of, sin has no chance!
This was why Jesus never sinned. His flesh was dead, so sin could not gain an entrance. So much also, that we need to also crucify our flesh in other to destroy its lusts.
No one is exempt from this problem, I have to deliberately surrender my flesh for destruction, daily and so do you.
One way of doing this successfully is to HIDE God’s Word in your heart. “Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.” Psalm 119:11
I really feel strengthened by this revelation. My case is very similar to the case of the writer-the challenge.
I AM A TEENAGE CHRISTAIN PLS I NEED PRAYERS THAT GOD SHOULD STRENTHEN ME, D BODY OF CHRIST I KNOW I CAN’T WIN DIS BATTLE WITH MY FLESH. ALL IS WELL
OK Daniel. I will be praying for you. But you have a part to play as well.
#1. Confess your wrongs/sin/faults to God AND REPENT – turn away from them.
#2. Throw away all means of connection with the flesh – books, magazines, photos, calendars, etc.
#3. Stop all relationships that draw you into sin – stop boyfriend/girlfriend relationships that involves kissing/touching/sex/lusts etc. Stop all friendships that lead into these things. If you refuse their company, it will stop.
#4. Avoid all appearance of evil. The things that cause to stumble themselves may not be evil, but what they are calling you into is evil.
#5. Fast and pray until you lose the taste for lust.
If you take these steps, you will surely be victorious!
I still suffer from lust for food and ate thousands of calories yesterday and today; it starts out small and then grows and it’s like I’ve lost control in this area, or like something else is controlling me. Where do you get encouragement to do this on your own? Why aren’t there encouragement groups that help people to overcome their strongholds? Why isn’t God doing this, if He sees that it is so hard on our own? I have had success at times in this food area, but I do backslide and then I’m in bondage all over again. Fran
Dear Fran, do you have a prayer-partner? If not get one, if you don’t have any, you can join us on Skype – we do regular meetings that help us watch over (or look after) one another.
But, I highly recommend regular fasts – such as once a week, from around midnight till the following day’s 6PM. Your flesh will try to use your body as cover up, it will kick and fight…. when it does so, remind it of victims of flooding that survived more than three, seven or more days without food. It will shut up.
Also, take slightly warm water, not too much, just a little at a time when the hunger bites hard. However, CONFIRM my advice with your personal doctor or health adviser, because I don’t know all your personal health circumstance.
God Bless You, Fran. God loves those who make effort like this. As you fast, you will gain spiritual power and strength as well.
This was very helpful. Am 25yrs old and I have never had sex but I am frequently tempted to browse words that are sex inclined and this has fueled lust in me such that when I go to bed I begin to imagine the act of sex. Am a christian and a youth leader pls I need yours prayers for grace n help to please God all my life n to remain a virgin till I marry my wife n know only her all my life. Thank you so much. God bless u. Would love to know more about u.
Dear James, thanks for sharing your heart. It’s also great to hear from you.
God is able to keep you till when you are ready for marriage. However, I will equally advise that you start praying for your future wife. While marriage may reduce the issue of lust a little bit, it does not cure it. Nothing can cure lust except Grace. Grace is the ability of God in a human life. Ask for His grace and do you bit. Your part is to avoid all appearances of lust. It’s serious warfare – this is the real spiritual warfare! You must be determined to win this war.
The small victories in each battle will compound – when a pretty lady walks past you, refuse to take a second look; when you’re online and you mistakenly see a lustful image, immediately close the page/browser – a lingering view will put you in trouble; when you’re watching a TV programme and they are portraying or presenting lust, change channel or switch off…. you get the gist. God will faithfully keep His side of the agreement.
You’re at war with the spirit of lust, it has destroyed/ruined many a life! But God has made available all forms of resources to help you overcome this spirit and even make a laughing stock out of their attempts at your life. Yes, God wants to prove to the kingdom of darkness that you’re His mighty threshing instrument with which He will humiliate the spirits of Hell.
I will remember to pray for you.
About me, well I am just a saint of God like you. May I suggest that you read more from the posts and page of this website, for example: https://brotherjohn.org/revival/
Dear Friends, I strongly recommend that you read the articles on Advanced Spiritual Warfare, this will greatly help you in your fight against lust.
I will like to be recieving great articles or advices nd conseling on overcoming sexual lust as a youth not married on my e-mail.i will be glade if my request is granted.thanks
Dear Brother Kingsley,
God Bless You! You should start receiving all new articles posted on this website. Should you not, kindly email me. thanks.
I must suggest that you read these other suggested articles, they can really help you greatly. Look at the other topics here:
https://brotherjohn.org/revival/ and see topics such as:
Advanced Spiritual Warfare: Overcoming The Strongman
Advanced Spiritual Warfare: Spiritual Guerrilla Warfare
Advanced Spiritual Warfare: Taking The Battleground
God Bless You.
Hi.Im a 26 years old lady(youth)born again Christian.. A sunday school teacher. actually have the same problem(i think) .. It started 2years back.when im around people ill feel nervous as if i have done something wrong.. And my my eyes will want to stare at private parts of who ever person next to me(it started with male).. Then when the months goes then it happened to every person, even in a taxi, in there i suffer especially when im between people i have anxiety,( a heavy one) . even my family, it scattered my relationship with them) . I couldn’t eye contaact.. My eyes will go allovers persons ears..nose.. Private parts.. Now i want to be free from this demon..thats why i sad im not sure what is it.. I did my research last year and it sad it is ocd..though now its not but like past year.. Because iv been so intimacy with god, He is been so good to me and i thank him for that.. and from prayer support from my pastor and his wife(ma god bless them) please pray with me beloved.
Thanks for your honest appeal for help, Fiona. I am sure the Lord can see your heart and cry for help, He will always be there for you. Perhaps, that was why you found this website. You need good information (knowledge) to get a proper deliverance, prayer is good, but it is when you combine it with knowledge that the full force of prayer comes to your aid.
Read/Study these three articles, starting with the bottom one (21):
19. Advanced Spiritual Warfare: Overcoming The Strongman
20. Advanced Spiritual Warfare: Spiritual Guerrilla Warfare
21. Advanced Spiritual Warfare: Taking The Battleground
Afterwards, get back to me.
I am praying for you, too. God Bless!
Send me information on how to get in on our Skype prayer group, please? Thanks.
Sent. Please check your email.
search for “brotherjohn.org” on skype.
pray for me to remove any bad spirit in my life
Thank you for sharing your testimony. May God Bless You, Your Family (and, The Ministry That God Has Entrusted You With), With Everything People Cannot . . .
I am 32 years old, single. There’s a girl who came to me in a regular basis with whom I do body touch and masturbation, even sex. Any time she left I would feel strong guilt in me condemning me, and sex times would send a text to her that I was interested again but later would go back into it. I fasted for four days to pray against lust in my body. But again I did the same thing with her today and immediately she left I had that same guilt and cried to God for forgiveness. I sent a text to her that I would be stopping and that the guilt I feel is so much disturbing me and that I don’t want to miss heaven. I want to grow in God’s faith and don’t want to go back to my former way. I need a prayer partner who can always put me in heart. I’m also praying for a God-fearing wife.
What you are fighting is the strongman of the flesh. And its intent is to destroy you. Imagine this scenario, you went through one of your sessions with this girl and she gets pregnant, but in reality, you don’t really love her enough to live rest of your life with her, then what are you going to do? Abandon her now that she’s pregnant? Ask her to terminate the pregnancy? Accept the baby but reject the mother? Accept both (by looking after them) but refuse marriage? Do you get the picture? A hundred questions can be generated, but the most important one you need to ask yourself is that is it worth it to continue in this indulgence?
Don’t make a shipwreck of your future. Your flesh (not body) is your number one enemy – not the witch next door nor the devil himself. You must wage war against your own flesh and win to overcome that indulgence. You need to fight with a strategy!
Read/Study these articles on Advanced Spiritual Warfare:
Read them in that order AND make notes as you go along. If you can go on a three-day fast again and pick an article each day, you will see how much spiritual victory you will gain!